It doesn’t take grand gestures of cruelty—small, minute actions and words pile up over time and make things worse. Why do we assume things only spiral out of control with overt violence and vulgarity? Sometimes it’s those little comments, the offhand insults, and the casual use of derogatory terms that slowly erode respect and kindness.

Every human deserves to lead a commendable life. In my view, the best among us are those who control their tongue. Not by hiding behind niceties, but by being direct without resorting to offense or shame. When you choose your words carefully, you show the quality of your character and the strength of your upbringing.

But what does it mean when people use abusive or vulgar language? It often isn’t because they have a natural talent for being mean—it may be a sign that they never experienced gentle guidance, or that their attempts to fix past hurts have twisted into a belief that being aggressive is the only way to compete. It seems this behavior has passed through generations, evolving into a norm where vulgarity and shaming are not only accepted but sometimes even celebrated.

I find myself debating anyone who casually throws around derogatory words, as if their insults prove something about their worth. They might think that by making someone feel small, they’ve somehow “won.” But at what cost? This cycle of curses and hurtful language only deepens the divide, preventing us from learning and growing.

At the end of the day, none of us are eternal. We owe it to ourselves and to each other to be mindful of our words. Changing this reality isn’t about dramatic shifts—it’s about recognizing that even the smallest things matter. Every word, every comment, contributes to the kind of world we live in.

Let’s choose to build a better reality, one respectful word at a time.